Working as a therapist for the last 35 years, with individuals of both genders and with couples, I’ve come to observe that there’s a huge gender gap in how both genders approach parenthood. Over the years, I’ve noticed that men for whom …
When do you know it’s over?
As a therapist, I typically get to meet people and see or hear about their relationship when things have gone seriously off track, usually for some time. Research shows that people delay seeking the help of a couple therapist – …
RELATIONSHIP – SUSTAINABLY HAPPY vs BUILT-IN OBSOLESCENCE
“I want to have a relationship” I hear people tell me. Elsewhere, I wrote about needing to discriminate between when we are looking for (mainly or only) sex, or relationship (avec ou sans sex). Let’s look at what it takes …
Boundaries in Relationship
“Boundaries make for good neighbours”, goes the saying. What does that mean? A boundary is a demarcation line; a way of distinguishing where one thing begins and another ends. National borders are boundaries that separate nation states into separate entities. Fences …
Does Psychotherapy Work?
I am rarely asked the question – “Does psychotherapy work?” Yet, the issue of therapeutic effectiveness is a question people should be asking given the enormous investment, financial, practical and emotional that it requires them to make. I am curious that this …
Relationship Distress ~ Wishful Thinking
Relationship Distress ~ Wishful Thinking A friend and colleague and I went to attend a day workshop on the topic of relationships run by one of the leading lights in the New Age movement, Marianne Williamson1, sponsored by the WakeUp! …