Further reading and resources

Whether you’re ready to start working on making a difference in your life with me or you’re still thinking about it, consider the following resources for further useful reading, grouped under general areas of subject relevance-


Allen Berger, (2010),”Twelve smart things to do when the booze and drugs are gone”, Hazelden


Mira Kirshenbaum, (2010), “When good people have affairs”, St Martin’s Press
Mira Kirshenbaum, (2012), “I love you but I don’t trust you”, Berkley Trade
Linda MacDonald, (2010), “How to help your spouse heal from your affair”, Creativespace Independent publishing platform
Janis Spring, (2012), “After the affair”, William Morrow


Margaret Wehrenberg, (2008), “The ten best anxiety management techniques”, Norton

Break up Resources

Susan Anderson, (2000), “The Journey from Abandonment to healing”, Berkley
Greg Behrendt & Amira Ruotola-Behrendt, (2008), “It’s called a breakup because it’s broken”, Harmony
Susan Elliott, (2009), “Getting past your breakup”, Da Capo Lifelong Books
Susan Elliott’s website is: www.getting pastyourbreakup.com/gettingpastyourpast
Diane Vaughan, (1990), “Uncoupling”, Penguin Books

Break up resources – questioning whether to breakup

Mira Kirshenbaum, (1997), “Too good to leave, too bad to stay”, Plume
Mira Kirshenbaum’s website is: www.thechestnuthillinstitute.com/mirakirshenbaum
Peter Kramer, (1999), “Should you leave?”, Penguin Books

Break up Resources for Kids

Vicki Lanski, (1997), “It’s not your fault CoCo Bear”, Book Peddlers
Claire Masurel, (2003), “Two homes”, Candlewick
Tamara Schmitz, (2008),”Standing on my own two feet”, Price, Stern Sloane


Terry Real, (1998), “I don’t want to talk about it”, book and CD, Scribner
Michael Yapko, (1998), “Breaking the patterns of depression”, Harmony
Michael Yapko, (2000), “Hand me down blues”, Golden Guides, St Martin’s Press
Michael Yapko, (2009), “Depression is contagious”, Atria Books
Michael Yapko’s website is: www.yapko.com

Generally useful

Viktor Frankl, (1997), “Mans’ search for meaning”, Pocket Books


Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish, (2012), “How to talk so kids will listen, and listen so kids will    talk”, Scribner
Brene Brown, (2013), “The gifts of imperfect parenting”, CD, Sounds True
John Gottman, (2007), “And baby makes three”, Crown/ Three Rivers press
Dan Siegel and Mary Hartzell, (2013), “Parenting from the Inside out”, Tarcher
Dan Siegel, (2014), “Brainstorm”, Tarcher
Dan Siegel, (2014), “No drama discipline”, Bantam
Dan Siegel’s website is: www.dansiegel.com


Mira Kirshenbaum, (2006), “Is he Mr Right?”, Crown Archetype
John Gottman, (1995), “Why marriages succeed or fail”, Simon & Shuster
John Gottman, (2012), “What makes love last”, Simon & Shuster
John Gottman, (2014), “The seven principles for making marriages work”, Random House
John Gottman, (2002), “The relationship cure”, Random House
John Gottman, (2007), “Ten lessons to transform your marriage”, Random House
John Gottman’s website is: www.gottman.com
Terry Real, (1998), “I don’t want to talk about it”, book and CD, Scribner
Terry Real, (2008), “The new rules of marriage”, Ballantine Books
Terry Real, (2002), “How can I get through to you?”, Scribner
Terry Real’s website is: www.terryreal.com
Stan Tatkin, (2012), “Wired for love”, New Harbinger Publication
Stan Tatkin, (2011), “Love and war in Intimate relationships”, Norton & Co
Stan Tatkin, (2013), “Your brain on love” (CD set), Sounds True
Stan Tatkin’s website is: www.stantatkin.com
Dan Wile, (2008), “After the honeymoon”, Daniel Wile
Dan Wile, (1995), “After the fight”, The Guilford Press
Dan Wile’s website is: www.danwile.com


Betty Dodson, (1974), “Liberating masturbation”, Bodysex Designs
Betty Dodson, (1996), “Sex for one”, Harmony
Betty Dodson’s website is: www.dodsonandross.com
John Gottman & Julie Schwartz, (2012), “Gottsex?”, DVD program

Technology and its impact

Sherry Turkle, (2012), “Alone Together”, Basic Books
Sherry Turkle, (2011), “Evocative objects”, MIT Press
Sherry Turkle, (2005), “The second self”, MIT Press
Sherry Turkle, (1997), “Life on the screen”, Simon & Shuster
Sherry Turkle, (2012), NY Times article
Sherry Turkle (2012) Slate Article
Sherry Turkle, (2013) The Guardian

Vulnerability, Shame and Perfectionism

Brene Brown, (2010),”The gifts of Imperfection”, Hazelden
Brene Brown, (2012),”Daring greatly”, Gotham
Brene Brown, (2012), “Men, women and worthiness”, CD, Sounds True
Brene Brown, (2008), “The power of vulnerability”, CD, Sounds True
Brene Brown’s website is: www.brenebrown.com
Brene Brown TED talks: Vulnerability & Listening to Shame