I usually write something pre-Christmas. This year, I didn’t due to the mad rush that Christmas was for everyone, including me, with the ongoing concern about climate-change driven bushfires here in Australia, particularly on the Eastern seaboard. A question – …
Women’s Body Autonomy
All over the world right now, there’s a war raging. It’s a war over women’s right to body autonomy, bodily autonomy and bodily integrity. We don’t call it a war, but we should. Body autonomy Body autonomy, here, is used …
Relationships – Mistakes, Ruptures and Repairs
Mistakes are to be expected in all relationships. It’s what we do about them that determines the course that a relationship will follow over time. This principle applies whether the rupture arises between any two people, or on the international …
WOMEN – AGEING AND GETTING OLDER
“Look twenty years younger!” “Discover the Fountain of youth”. As we get older, women hear comments about themselves and other women that fall somewhere between “you don’t / she doesn’t look your/ her age!” (meaning, that’s a good thing), and …
Belonging vs Conditional Acceptance – Who Belongs When All is Said and Done?
How do we determine whether we truly belong or just “fit in”? The terms are often used interchangeably, but they do not mean the same thing. The more closed we become, The more foreign our spirits seem, The more closed …
Entitlement
“S/he’s acting so entitled!” That expression has become commonplace today in many Western countries, usually referring to someone who acts and speaks in ways that suggest they expect special treatment, status, privilege, preference, and priority access to more resources than …
Connection – What does it even mean?
Connection – what does it even mean? In our modern era, we are constantly told we are ‘always connected’. We’re expected to be ‘always connected’, and to want to be that way. But what does that even mean? Thanks to …
Marriage
Here in Australia, we’ve very recently and belatedly come to acknowledge that Love is Love, granting the same legal right to marry to same sex couples as has been afforded to heterosexual couples for centuries. Following in the footsteps of …
The Swipe Culture and the Ideal of Choice – How does it shape modern romance?
In our quest for relationship in the modern era, how does the swipe culture influence and shape our choices? And does it get us what we think we want? In the West, once we women acquired more agency over our own …
Preparing for Fatherhood – doing some due diligence
Working as a therapist for the last 35 years, with individuals of both genders and with couples, I’ve come to observe that there’s a huge gender gap in how both genders approach parenthood. Over the years, I’ve noticed that men for whom …