In Parts 1 and 2, I presented the case for re-certifying for therapists and presented my own experience as a case study. In Part 3, I invite you to consider an array of practices that informed the approach I took …
Training to leave
Whenever people contact me to work on issues they are unsure about that concern their relationship, I always make it a point to try to find out if they are coming to see if the relationship can be salvaged or …
Sexual Revolution? For Whom?
As a couple therapist, I hear heterosexual women describe one-sided sexual contact with men all the time. By one-sided, I mean the focus is on male pleasure and the woman’s pleasure is either not attended to by the man or, …
From chores to life work – talking to kids about contributing at home
Reflections on rights, needs, contribution and privilege in the domestic sphere Many couples and single parents I speak with complain to me that their children don’t ‘do enough’ or don’t ‘help enough’ around the house with household ‘chores’. While I’m …
Men who ‘help’ their women partners … and the women who feel at their wits end with them
As a couple therapist, I constantly work with couples who fight about sex, housework and kids. Typically, working with heterosexual couples, I hear women complain that the men don’t do enough or anything around the house or with the kids. …