A piece I address with almost every client I meet in my work as a psychotherapist is the existence, intensity and impact of their inner critic. By that, I mean a critical internal voice that constantly finds fault with …
Connection – What does it even mean?
Connection – what does it even mean? In our modern era, we are constantly told we are ‘always connected’. We’re expected to be ‘always connected’, and to want to be that way. But what does that even mean? Thanks to …
Marriage
Here in Australia, we’ve very recently and belatedly come to acknowledge that Love is Love, granting the same legal right to marry to same sex couples as has been afforded to heterosexual couples for centuries. Following in the footsteps of …
The Swipe Culture and the Ideal of Choice – How does it shape modern romance?
In our quest for relationship in the modern era, how does the swipe culture influence and shape our choices? And does it get us what we think we want? In the West, once we women acquired more agency over our own …
Preparing for Fatherhood – doing some due diligence
Working as a therapist for the last 35 years, with individuals of both genders and with couples, I’ve come to observe that there’s a huge gender gap in how both genders approach parenthood. Over the years, I’ve noticed that men for whom …
What is it about New Year’s Resolutions?
Well we’ve started a new year and I’m deafened daily by the sound of other people’s New Year’s resolutions. Over and over, face to face, in the media, on TV, on social media, I hear people earnestly talk about how …
’twas the Night Before Christmas … Not Again !
It’s that time again. I’m surrounded by ads, billboards, Christmas baubles, lights and decorations everywhere. As I walk along the street, in some shops, and when I drive along listening to the radio, I hear advertisements, constantly telling me to …
Is the Universe a Friendly Place?
IS THE UNIVERSE A FRIENDLY PLACE? Years ago, I remember reading a quote attributed to Einstein. In it, he was claimed to have said that one of the last really big questions remaining for humanity to answer was: is the …
When do you know it’s over?
As a therapist, I typically get to meet people and see or hear about their relationship when things have gone seriously off track, usually for some time. Research shows that people delay seeking the help of a couple therapist – …
Finding the one or finding the one for right now?
Currently in the West, the most common way to meet new potential partners I hear about is through the internet. A plethora of dating sites exist to meet the different needs, ranging from the hook-up oriented type to those that …