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Training to leave

Whenever people contact me to work on issues they are unsure about that concern their relationship, I always make it a point to try to find out if they are coming to see if the relationship can be salvaged or …

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Connection – What does it even mean?

Connection – what does it even mean? In our modern era, we are constantly told we are ‘always connected’.  We’re expected to be ‘always connected’, and to want to be that way. But what does that even mean? Thanks to …

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Marriage

Here in Australia, we’ve very recently and belatedly come to acknowledge that Love is Love, granting the same legal right to marry to same sex couples as has been afforded to heterosexual couples for centuries. Following in the footsteps of …

So Much Talk of Sexual Assault !

SO MUCH TALK OF SEXUAL ASSAULT! They’re coming out of the woodwork! You’d have to be living under a rock not to notice the veritable avalanche of sexual abuse, sexual harassment, sexual exploitation being reported in the news right now. …

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When do you know it’s over?

As a therapist, I typically get to meet people and see or hear about their relationship when things have gone seriously off track, usually for some time. Research shows that people delay seeking the help of a couple therapist – …

Finding the one or finding the one for right now?

Currently in the West, the most common way to meet new potential partners I hear about is through the internet. A plethora of dating sites exist to meet the different needs, ranging from the hook-up oriented type to those that …

Integrity, Trust and Credibility

Integrity, trust and credibility are big ticket words. They play out in our lives, for each and every one of us, every day. Whether we realise it or not. The degree to which we demonstrate them through our actions as …

After the Affair… is this relationship worth salvaging?

After an affair is revealed, many people wonder if there is any point in engaging in counseling. As with most other relationship-specific difficulties, the answer is it “depends”. One of the many relevant factors is how soon after the reveal a …