“Look twenty years younger!” “Discover the Fountain of youth”. As we get older, women hear comments about themselves and other women that fall somewhere between “you don’t / she doesn’t look your/ her age!” (meaning, that’s a good thing), and …
Belonging vs Conditional Acceptance – Who Belongs When All is Said and Done?
How do we determine whether we truly belong or just “fit in”? The terms are often used interchangeably, but they do not mean the same thing. The more closed we become, The more foreign our spirits seem, The more closed …
The Swipe Culture and the Ideal of Choice – How does it shape modern romance?
In our quest for relationship in the modern era, how does the swipe culture influence and shape our choices? And does it get us what we think we want? In the West, once we women acquired more agency over our own …
What is it about New Year’s Resolutions?
Well we’ve started a new year and I’m deafened daily by the sound of other people’s New Year’s resolutions. Over and over, face to face, in the media, on TV, on social media, I hear people earnestly talk about how …
When do you know it’s over?
As a therapist, I typically get to meet people and see or hear about their relationship when things have gone seriously off track, usually for some time. Research shows that people delay seeking the help of a couple therapist – …
After the Affair… is this relationship worth salvaging?
After an affair is revealed, many people wonder if there is any point in engaging in counseling. As with most other relationship-specific difficulties, the answer is it “depends”. One of the many relevant factors is how soon after the reveal a …
F.O.M.O. – Have we got the wrong end of the stick?
Fear of missing out. Over the past few years, I’ve noticed the acronym and what it stands for appears in many peoples’ accounts of their everyday life stress. To me, it’s been a long-time given that if I choose to do/ …
RELATIONSHIP – SUSTAINABLY HAPPY vs BUILT-IN OBSOLESCENCE
“I want to have a relationship” I hear people tell me. Elsewhere, I wrote about needing to discriminate between when we are looking for (mainly or only) sex, or relationship (avec ou sans sex). Let’s look at what it takes …
Letting Go
She’s gone. My friend of almost thirty years’ standing died on February 10, 2017, after a protracted battle with ovarian cancer. As I continued to prepare for the death of my dear friend (Kate), I was struck by the similarities between …
Life Housekeeping
Towards the end of the last calendar year, I found myself in the grip of a powerful urge to clean up my affairs on all sorts of levels; that sense of housekeeping urgency has followed me into the new year. …
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