Making Co-Parenting Work After Separation/Divorce

I was seeing a couple the other day, assisting them to smooth the way as much as possible for their children as they separate and prepare their children for what life will be like going forward once they are no longer a …

New Year’s Resolutions 2016

New Year’s Resolutions 2016 ~ Making the Speed Bumps on the Road to Change Work For You. Every year, I hear that tired old refrain: “I’m going to be different”, “Next year, I’m going to ..”, and out comes a list …

Xmas – an Alien’s Viewpoint

Xmas – an Alien’s Viewpoint It’s ba-aack! No avoiding it. Every year in the Judeo-Christian influenced world, it hits like a tsunami. Starting from early hints in September, gradually building momentum in October/ November, until the tidal wall of commercial frenzy …

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Hard Choices – Termination

Termination always means something is brought to an end. Even when we think we want and choose an ending and plan for it, it can still be hard. As a therapist, I am asked to help people deal with endings in all …

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IT-technology: a polemic

What did I do before my life got so reliant on information technology? From the moment I wake up until I stop and go to sleep, I’m amazed at how much my daily life revolves around various IT gadgets. Me?! Practically allergic …

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Relationship Distress ~ Wishful Thinking

Relationship Distress ~ Wishful Thinking A friend and colleague and I went to attend a day workshop on the topic of relationships run by one of the leading lights in the New Age movement, Marianne Williamson1, sponsored by the WakeUp! …

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Supervision – support for the therapist

Supervision – essential support for the therapist.  I’ve been thinking about supervision since another death occurred in my life recently. I took another hit with the sudden loss of one of the people who was most central to my personal …

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Preparing for death and dying

Death. It comes to us, ready or not. Preparing for death and dying. It seems there’s been a lot of it in my life the last month or so. The privilege of bearing witness to the thoughtful actions of a close …