I am rarely asked the question – “Does psychotherapy work?” Yet, the issue of therapeutic effectiveness is a question people should be asking given the enormous investment, financial, practical and emotional that it requires them to make. I am curious that this …
Making Co-Parenting Work After Separation/Divorce
I was seeing a couple the other day, assisting them to smooth the way as much as possible for their children as they separate and prepare their children for what life will be like going forward once they are no longer a …
New Year’s Resolutions 2016
New Year’s Resolutions 2016 ~ Making the Speed Bumps on the Road to Change Work For You. Every year, I hear that tired old refrain: “I’m going to be different”, “Next year, I’m going to ..”, and out comes a list …
Xmas – an Alien’s Viewpoint
Xmas – an Alien’s Viewpoint It’s ba-aack! No avoiding it. Every year in the Judeo-Christian influenced world, it hits like a tsunami. Starting from early hints in September, gradually building momentum in October/ November, until the tidal wall of commercial frenzy …
Hard Choices – Termination
Termination always means something is brought to an end. Even when we think we want and choose an ending and plan for it, it can still be hard. As a therapist, I am asked to help people deal with endings in all …
IT-technology: a polemic
What did I do before my life got so reliant on information technology? From the moment I wake up until I stop and go to sleep, I’m amazed at how much my daily life revolves around various IT gadgets. Me?! Practically allergic …
Relationship Distress ~ Wishful Thinking
Relationship Distress ~ Wishful Thinking A friend and colleague and I went to attend a day workshop on the topic of relationships run by one of the leading lights in the New Age movement, Marianne Williamson1, sponsored by the WakeUp! …
Supervision – support for the therapist
Supervision – essential support for the therapist. I’ve been thinking about supervision since another death occurred in my life recently. I took another hit with the sudden loss of one of the people who was most central to my personal …
Preparing for death and dying
Death. It comes to us, ready or not. Preparing for death and dying. It seems there’s been a lot of it in my life the last month or so. The privilege of bearing witness to the thoughtful actions of a close …
New Year Resolutions! Plus ca change, plus c’est la même chose…
New Year Resolutions! Plus ca change, plus c’est la même chose… Every year, I hear the same thing from people all around me, before and after the magical date arrives. “This year”, they assure me, “it will be different! I’m …